What is a “Paradigm”
In this context paradigms can be defined as a distinct set of concepts or thought patterns. In short, it is the model for what we consider our realities, based on our experiences.
While reading “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” I began to realize the power we have to master our own self-awareness simply by realizing that each of us exist in our own paradigms. If nothing else, I have learned one thing in my interactions with people. They desire to be heard, want to be understood, and the ultimate goal is to influence, whether we realize it or not. In our desire to appeal to people, to pitch ourselves, to get them to “like” us, we often miss the most important part… and that is to understand others. As I have begun to shift my thinking, I have been practicing the art of listening, and controlling my desire to interject when the person I am conversing with says something that triggers a thought.
Listening should be a think-less act. For example, if you are thinking of a reply while someone is explaining something to you? Is your focus being put into what they are saying, or what you are thinking?
This is why it is important to understand The Power of the Paradigm . In essence, I have come to realize that people only understand the world from their point of view, and that they will NEVER fully see the world the way you do. Simply because no ones shares the same, complete reality. Every experience no matter how small shapes your thinking, and though there may be commonalities in thought, no one ever sees the world exactly the way you do. Understanding this is the key to being able to shift your thinking and will help you gain control of your own reality.
We, as human beings, are responsive but also self aware creatures. This is what separates us from animals. Because we are able to examine why we feel the way we do. With that same understanding we also have the power to discover why others feel the way they do. Being able to control your thoughts and reactions will give you space to master your paradigm, allowing you gain an understanding of someone else’s. If you want to influence, you must first learn to reason. The result of reason is the ability to compromise and understand why any true comprise should result in what is a called a win/win. Creating a balance between listen/learn and talk/teach is the core of communication allowing paradigms or points of view to blend toward a commonality which will lead toward a common intention.
Crafting this into your life will not only develop you professionally but will improve personal relationships. All in all, giving you the freedom to not only accept others the way they are but also to, accept yourself for who you are. Mastering your paradigm allows you to shift it as well. A shift in paradigm is a shift in thought. Which is not only revolutionary it is evolutionary.
After reading this, begin taking the time to listen during conversations, and silence the voice in your head that wants to respond. Allow people to finish their sentences, and let their words resonate within you before you eagerly throw a response out. See how this understanding changes the quality of your interactions and relationships.